On Giving and Receiving

IMG_0876As the saying goes, it is much better to give than receive. At least I felt that way yesterday afternoon when I dutifully responded to cat cries and got up from my recliner to let Izzie inside, only to discover she had a wiggling mole dangling from her mouth!  She was so proud of her gift to me, as she tried to gain entry into the kitchen.  I was torn between wanting to give her the recognition she so wanted and the sympathy I felt for the small creature whose life was in jeopardy.

I did what any red blooded American woman would do; I called for my husband to come handle it!

The actual times he has been around to handle this type of situation have been so few, that I felt it was only fair that he be included in Izzie’s gift.  After all, I was certain it was intended for the both of us.  He eventually came to my rescue and went around back to see if he could coax Izzie to bring her present out through the cat door.  That didn’t work, but she did drop it and I was able to get her to come inside, allowing me to go out to the porch and unhook the door so that Dave could rescue the mole.   We’re not sure how extensive his injuries were, but Dave carefully placed in back in the woods under cover to meet his destiny.

As we move into the final days before Christmas and the tension builds as to whether I’ve made the right choices, I worry about just how my gifts will be received.  Will my gifts be received with joy or will the reaction be as if I’ve offered rodents to my friends and family?

I wonder if God feels that way sometimes when He looks down at us at Christmas.  These days the focus on the holy day is so much more about us and our hopes and dreams with a smidgeon of welcoming the Christ child into the world and less and less about the real meaning. I believe the true meaning isn’t about babies and stables but that we as Christians have been given the task to bring Christ into the world.  Just as Mary bore him in the stable, it is our job to be Christ-bearers.

It’s not always an easy gift to receive and accept or even understand.  But some gifts are like that, aren’t they Izzie?

 

Kittens – Day Two

 

A much cleaner Cayla and Allie on their second day of fostering.
A much cleaner Cayla and Allie on their second day of fostering.

With twenty-four hours of kitten fostering under my belt, I have to admit, it hasn’t been the cake walk I’d imagined.  From the moment I woke up this morning, I was tending to their little lives, feeding them, cleaning up their playpen and scooping out their litter box.  One of them hasn’t gotten the knack of peeing in the box, so there was a puddle to wipe up.

On my way home from the gym, I stopped by Walmart to pick up a few things; kitten wipes, a new some canned food and half a dozen “mice”.  Before I took my shower, I gave them each a wipe down and brushing.  Neither enjoyed the cleaning very much and both cried in protest as I wiped the yuck and flea dirt from their coats.  Then I dried them with clean wash cloths and brushed them with a soft baby brush.  To keep them clean, I put them in a net laundry basket and mopped out their playpen.

Not long after they were clean and returned to their clean pen, I noticed that Cayla was favoring her left front paw.  I picked her up to examine her leg, feeling up and down the pencil sized appendage. Each time I touched that left leg she cried in pain.  When I touched the right, she didn’t react.  I reacted big-time and hurried downstairs to find the paperwork I signed with the Humane Society.  I found the vet’s name and number and called him immediately.  The vet was not in, but I left a message in his voice mail.  Having the majority of my day so totally kitten-centered (except for my hour at the gym) I decided it was my turn to jump in the shower, hoping the vet wouldn’t return my call.  He didn’t.

Two hours later, Cayla and Allie have just finished their second meal of the day, and are curled contentedly on their “blankie”.  Whenever I go by and drop my hand it to pet them, they purr, and sometimes squeak.  Oh, and Cayla doesn’t seem to be limping anymore.

I think I’ll head downstairs now and stretch out on the couch with Izzie and Purrl, neither of whom are interested in the babies.  This kitten fostering is exhausting!

ps.  Most of my fatigue could be a result of last night’s UVA vs. VCU Men’s Basketball game.  The new hand-check foul rules really slowed the first half down; I think it lasted an hour and a half!  In the end, VCU proved to be the better team and they were a joy to watch.  Maggie and Jan and a whole lot of other Rams fans who made the trip north drove home with smiles on their faces.  Me, I was more afraid the game would go into overtime than UVA would lose.  It was a late night for us!

New Beginnings

Today is a day of new beginnings.

This evening Dave and I, along with Maggie and Jan will attend of first UVA basketball game of the season.  Dave and I, die-hard ACC fans will root for UVA, Maggie and Jan, and Richmondites, will root for VCU.  No matter who wins, it is always exciting to drive into Charlottesville, park by the JAG school and then ride the shuttle off to John Paul Jones Stadium where we will scale our way up to the heights of the bleachers, out of t-shirt gun range and spend two hours hooting and cheering, and hissing at bad calls.  College basketball fanaticism is something I caught from my buddy, Jay Pinto, who turned me on to Big Five Basketball in the Philadelphia Palestra back in the early  70’s.   I love it all; from the roars of the crowd, the shrill of the whistles to the squeaks of the sneakers on the floor.

If there is one think I love better than basketball, it is kittens.  With the right set of circumstances, I’m afraid I could become the crazy woman with thirty cats you see on the news at least two to three times a year.  So, to feed my need for time with kittens and avoid over populating my home with felines, I have become a foster-mother to two of the tiniest, sweetest little fur balls for the next several weeks.  My task is simple, to care for them, love them and play with them.

Cayla and Allie, day one in their new foster home.
Cayla and Allie, day one in their new foster home.

Cayla and Allie, as they were named by the granddaughter of one of the volunteers at the Madison Greene Humane Society, are about five weeks old.  They are perfect miniature cats; inquisitive, friendly, playful and best of all, warm and cuddly.  They are also unfortunately, a bit stinky.  Tomorrow I’ll have to head for Petsmart to get some wipes to bathe them with.

Wait, hold the phone!  I hear the familiar sound of scratching on the carpet in the corner.  Ooooh nooo! Our first accident!  Note to self; Cayla and Allie are not allowed to walk the floor of the office without my keeping an eye on them until further notice.  Oh the joys of motherhood!

Purrl checks out her foster sisters.
Purrl checks out her foster sisters.

So far Izzie and Purrl have come in to the office to take a look at the babies, always keeping their distance.  Purrl has come closest, offering hisses as she approaches.  Luckily, I have a nylon play-yard for them to stay in.  It’s just safer for all of us that way.

Now, I know there a many people who do not share my affection for the feline of the pet species.  I contend these are people who have never really known a cat.  If you think you might like to get to know a cat without any kind of commitment, try fostering one for a couple of weeks.  I think you just might be surprised.

 

Letting Go

Perhaps the biggest challenge I face these days is being comfortable with letting Dave out of my sight for extended periods of time.  Just before he was discharged from the hospital, his cardiologist, Dr. Bove told him that within 48 hours he could do anything he wanted except lift weights and exercise strenuously.  Sure, that’s easy for her to say, she discharges people from the hospital practically every day.  Not so for me.

Since we returned home on Tuesday, I’ve been by Dave’s side, asking if he’s okay, (probably a little too much but he’s been very patient with me.)  I make sure he’s eating properly, taking evening walks and getting sufficient rest.  If he needed to go somewhere, I was his chauffeur.  He’s been my own personal “bubble boy”.

This morning I let him go to the office by himself.  The government has conveniently accommodated his condition by furloughing the majority of government employees working with him, so there just isn’t much going on for his contractors to support.  Fortunately for us, our contracts are funded with last year’s money so we’re good to go for a while.

All of this hyper-vigilance is exhausting! When he’s around, I keep checking on him and when he was at the office, he was never far from my thoughts.  This morning I even caught up on ironing all the dress shirts that have been stacking up on the laundry room door.  It took me over an hour to get them all pressed.  But, in my own small way, I felt connected to him in a penitential sort of way.

This evening I planned on riding along with him down to the community college where he teaches on Thursday evenings, just to make sure.  I had myself and dinner ready in plenty of time for us to eat and then had the kitchen tidied in short order to get on the road.  All I had left to do was to call Izzie in from the yard.  Usually she’s positioned right under the bird feeders, waiting for the squirrels.  Usually all I have to do is open the door, call her and she trots in.  Not this evening.

Izzie hold court with her new friends under the bird feeders.
Izzie hold court with her new friends under the bird feeders.

I called from the back door and then from the front.  I walked around the house and up the hill for a better vantage point across the neighboring yards.  No Izzie.  We didn’t have any time to spend cat hunting.  I figured she would be okay on her own until we got back and was ready to leave her to whatever mischief she was up to when Dave said, “Honey, I love that you want to come along with me, but honestly, I feel good – at least no more tired than I do any other Thursday evening.  I think you should stay home.”   So I did.

Maybe it’s a good thing that I let him go out on his own.  For one thing, he needs to know he can do it as much as I do.  I guess I shouldn’t be too hard on poor Izzie either.  After all, she was just doing what comes naturally to cats, whatever she wants to do.  If it had been an emergency she’d be on her own.  But it wasn’t.  Instead, I think it might have been God’s way of gently nudging me to let Dave go.  His doctor said he’s okay.  He says he’s okay.  I need to be okay with it as well.

And I will be; once he comes back through the door again later this evening.

Riding the Current

For the most part of these past few weeks since I returned home from my Georgia trip with Barb, my life has been one where I’ve been swept away with the current. And, like any experienced ocean swimmer, I know the best way to get out of a rip current is to just swim along with it, parallel to the shore until it carries you back in to the beach. I suppose that’s where the expression, “to go with the flow” comes from.

There hasn’t been any one dramatic event directing my course, merely a series of events that have diverted my course as I had it planned resulting in an ever growing list of things I “need” to do. Let’s take yesterday for example.

My plan for the day was to head out to the gym first thing, meet with Lorenzo and then, fully energized, I would come home and tackle my household chores and maybe even surprise Dave with a batch of home-baked snickerdoodles. I would also take a look at the paperwork for the Virginia DCR Dam Grant and begin to put together an application for our HOA. Also topping my list is to contact a couple of the hotels in the Richmond area to check on possible group rates for Maggie’s wedding in September. It’s a pretty hefty chunk of work, but with enough energy and organization, completing it wouldn’t be that difficult.

The first sign that the day wouldn’t be as I’d hoped happened when Dave let Izzie, our calico, in the backdoor not long after she’d demanded to be let out. Dave asked her what she’d been up to and then called me to come take a look at her. Although it wasn’t raining, Izzie’s back was wet and mussed and along with a noticeable limp, she also had tufts of some other cat’s fur on her.  Having been through this drill before, we were certain Izzie had been in a fight and if we found a wound, would have to go to the vet. Since she stopped for a bite at her bowl, I deemed the situation not an emergency and headed off to the gym.

My workout on Monday had been great but for some reason yesterday morning I felt really sluggish. Lorenzo pushed me hard, which is what I pay him for, but for the first time in a very long time I was physically unable to complete the workout he’d planned for me. That, along with a gain of almost two pounds had me leaving the gym significantly less peppy than I’d arrived.  I hate it when that happens!

Once home I checked on Izzie. I found a bite on her back leg and made the call. A couple of hours later we were in the vet’s office where Izzie received a steroid shot and antibiotics and I received the bill. Dr. Godine and I had a nice chat about therapeutic laser treatments on soft tissue injuries. I learned that he was the Board Director of the North American Association of Laser Therapists. What an amazing little town I live in!

Anyway, back at the ranch, Dave was home when I arrived back with Izzie. He’d had is annual physical and was delighted that his cholesterol was below the medication necessary level but he was also in pain because he’d had to have a gnarly hemorrhoid excised for the second time this week. He announced he was under doctor’s orders to not sit or stand for prolonged periods of time and was to soak in the tub at least three times a day. Great. Also, the doctor had called a couple of prescriptions into the pharmacy at Walmart that I would need to pick up. So much for a clean house and wedding plans; at that point, I surrendered and began swimming parallel to the shore.

Today I have modified my plans. Dave is working from home nursing his “condition” and I am sort of working around him. While he was having a morning soak, I stripped the bed and vacuumed our bedroom. Clean sheets and carpet go a long way to make life more bearable, no matter how much clutter lurks downstairs.

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Next I began to glance over the damn Dam Grant Application and was about to sit down with it until I looked outside and saw what a beautiful morning it is.  Izzie was asking to be let out, so I grabbed my jacket and coffee and went with her.   She likes to walk beside me as I review the progress of each new sprout and bud in the garden.  She also likes to lead me up to the wooded area in the back where she hunts moles.  That is how I ended up at my chat area.  It was so inviting with the new gray table I added to the group of red chairs last week so I sat.  The sun felt so good that I trotted back to the house for my laptop and IPad and decided to write for a while.  For me, it has been the mental equivalent of floating on my back over the waves with my face upturned to the sun.

I know I won’t get my pile of stuff done before more gets piled on top, the grass keeps growing and the dust keeps falling.  I also know that it’ll all get done; just not all in the same day.

So, in the meantime, I’m going to do my best to remember to stop and smell the flowers, watch and listen to the birds and feel the warmth of the sun on my face whenever I can. It may not remove the dust from my table tops, but it certainly removes it from my brain and that is most important!

 

I Can’t Believe I Raked the Whole Yard!

Saturday morning while Dave was off practicing with the Greene County Singers, I decided to help him with his yard duties and rake the leaves in the back yard.  Shortened daylight hours and busy weekends have put him a little behind the curve in lawn care.  I, on the other hand, had a few hours to spare and welcomed a change from my household chores and longed to get out into the fresh air.  Raking seemed like a good idea – until I started raking.

The work didn’t seem as easy as it did when I was a kid.  The rake seemed heavier at first and my arms felt weaker.  I began to let negative thoughts enter my head.  Maybe I wouldn’t be able to complete the task.  Maybe all my hours in the gym hadn’t gotten me to the point where I could do it. Maybe I was to old.  I was beginning to become discouraged.

Then I remembered some important lessons I’ve learned at the gym. First I cleared all the negative thoughts from my mind: allowing myself to mentally break the task into bits.  Then I began to focus on my technique; finding the most comfortable and effective way to gather the leaves.  Sometimes I used quick short sweeps, sometimes longer and slower.  Before I knew it, half the yard was green again!

As I surveyed what I had accomplished, I saw Izzie rolling in a sunny spot in the grass, beckoning me to join her.  I thought, why not?  Lorenzo gives me rest periods throughout me workouts.  So, I laid down the rake and plopped myself on the cool lawn beside Izzie to rub her belly and scratch her chin.  It was a perfect moment; quiet and peaceful, the distractions of the holidays were gone.  Refreshed, I picked up my rake and tackled the next chunk of lawn.

My mind began to wonder freely as I worked.  I thought about Maggie and Jan’s engagement and how happy I am for them.  I thought about Andy and offered a little prayer that he be offered the post doc position he just interviewed for.  I thought about so many things.  Then I realized what a gift it was to be able to let my mind go like that.  No phones.  No TV.  No other voices.  Just me in my yard, methodically working and thinking.

Eventually, I realized I had finished.  The leaves were now gathered in a handful of large piles throughout the yard, ready to be hauled into the woods.  There was now a clear distinction between the lawn and the wooded section of the yard.  I had a glimpse of how God felt after he created the world and it was good.  Instead of feeling drained and ready to plop in a chair, I felt energized.  So, I picked up my rake and began to rake the front yard!

It occurred to me that my time with rake in hand was a reminder of how all jobs in life should be approached; with a positive attitude, good technique, determination as well as respites.  A job well done should be one that gives you the energy to carry on.  If it doesn’t, and your attitude, technique and dedication are all in rightness, then it is the job that is not right.

Rake on!

What I’ve Learned From Izzie About the Power of Persistent Prayer

I believe that God speaks to us in a variety of ways, connecting to us on an individual basis, tuning into our own personal frequencies.  Our challenge is to pay attention, to first tune into and then become part of the conversation.  When this this all comes together, epiphanies result.

Saturday morning as Dave and I lazily sipped our coffee and tentatively mapped out our day with “What do you want to do today?” and the dreaded response, “I don’t care, what did you want to do?”, Izzie sat at the back door crying.  She knew exactly what she wanted to do; she wanted to go outside.

Months ago, after Izzie’s emergency trip to the vet, we’d decided to keep her indoors for her own safety and our peace of mind.  At first she didn’t seem to mind so much, but over the past several weeks, Izzie has made it known that she has had a change of heart and wanted to rejoin the wild world of moles and mice in the back yard.  Long episodes of pleading by the door and several unsuccessful excape attempts have caused us to rethink our decision.

We considered Izzie’s current quality of life.  Yes, she’s safe, but she’s also become increasingly lazy and withdrawn.  Worst of all, she’s been very irritable, growling every time she even catches sight of Purrl.

We tried to ease the situation by allowing Izzie supervised playtime in the back yard.  We’d let her out while we were working on the gardens or just to sit in the sun.  That worked fine, and Izzie came in when she was called.  The problem was that she wanted to go out all the time.

So, after careful thought and consideration, weighing the quality of life issues against the safety issues, we decided to let Izzie be free to roam the yard unchaperoned during daylight hours.  For the past few days our arrangement is working.  Izzie still asks for our company when she goes out.  Sometimes we go and when we can’t, we peak out the door or window, to get a bead on her.  Even though we aren’t together, Dave and I are still looking after her, ready to help her in a time of need.

OK, so you may be wondering how a cat crying at the door has taught be about the power of persistent prayer. What was my epiphany?  Here goes;

God only wants what is best for us.  He loves us and cares for us, despite our best efforts to “run out the open door without supervision”.  When we make requests, God doesn’t always give us quick answers.  I see that like our consideration in letting Izzie roam free, God must consider the pros and cons of each request with a measure of just how much we yearn for our request.  The duration of the requests doesn’t necessarily translate into a positive response, but it certainly reminds God that we are still asking.

Like Izzie, I’d like to know that God is out there with me when I’m out in the world, and because God is God, I know that is the truth.  God doesn’t merely peak out the window to check on me.

Aside from The Prayer before supper and the occassional off the cuff conversation with God, regular thoughtful prayer hasn’t been a part of my daily life.  It is a goal that I continue to attempt to attain.  I think God just might have been tuning into me through Izzie’s pleas at the door, to remind me of the old acronym P.U.S.H. – Pray Until Something Happens.  Izzie asked and she received, she “knocked” and the door was opened to her.  I just need to follow her example.

 

 

 

Morning in the Office with the Girls

The girls and I have spent the entire morning working in the office. For the past several hours I have been transcribing minutes from this month’s Habitat for Humanity Steering Committee Meeting, preparing bulletin announcements for the dreaded Annual Diocesan Appeal and finalizing the reservation for the HOA Annual meeting in January with the vice principal at the local elementary school.  As always, Izzie and Purrl have been keeping me company.

Izzie and Purrl always keep me company in the office.

It’s our routine; I go upstairs, they follow.  I work, they snooze.  They perked up a bit when they heard the camera go on, but usually they are oblivious to my trials and tribulations as I volley between four different email accounts; two of mine, one for the parish, one for the HOA.  It is tricky sometimes, keeping track of where I am and which hat I’m wearing but so far, so good.

Of course our togetherness isn’t always welcomed.  Izzie will still from time to time demonstrate her displeasure at her life as an “indoor cat” by crying at the door, knocking small objects from table tops or “arranging” flowers from vases to the floor.  Purrl has frequent spells of “needing to play, NOW!”  She dances around the family room floor demanding in a high pitch wail until she is appeased.

In turn, I pester them as well.  I pick them up and give them loving.  Surprisingly, Izzie enjoys the attention and will nuzzle her head under my chin making a wheezy purr sound that is her own.  Purrl does not take to being held but does like to climb in my lap from time to time for pets.  As her name suggests, she is accomplished at purring.

Purrl’s spot is overlooking Izzie, ready to pounce!

In their quiet presence, they keep me focused on my office tasks.  Without them, I would be constantly looking for distractions to get me out of this chair and this blog would go unwritten. I owe them a great deal, my furry entourage.

Kitten Rescue

Last night while Dave and I were catching up on the DVR, Andy called with a question only his mother could answer.  “Mom, a kitten showed up on my doorstep.  What should I do?”  In the background I could hear the quacking – mews of a kitten mixed with loud purrs.

I know how much he loves cats.   Except for the three years we lived in Hawaii, we have always had at least one cat member of our family.

When he was home in October, he went with me up to the SPCA to look at dogs.  Seeing the wall-to-wall cats, we decided we really wanted another cat instead of a dog.  Andy and I fell in love with this little guy, who we were going to name “Ralphie” (because it looks like he shot his eye out.)  When I went back, Ralphie was gone, and Purrl came home with us instead.

Knowing how irresistable a kitten can be.  I told him that he really should look for its owner.  He is already caring for two cats in the apartment he sublets and will be moving back home next months for an extended stay.  He suggested he could leave some food for the kitten on his porch but was afraid a coyote might get it.

I pushed for finding the owner.  “Okay,” he said, “I’ll call you back.”

About fifteen minutes later, he called back.  He’d found the kitten’s home.  While he was walking through his apartment complex he came across a guy and his kids.  The fellow didn’t know where the cat lived, but the kids did.  They ran off to the kitten’s home with their dad and Andy in tow.  Andy said they found a door cracked open with a dish of cat food on the stoop.  A very relieved young woman and toddler met him at the door.

Andy was very happy about the reunion.  He definitely had to go outside his comfort zone to go door to door looking for this kitten’s home, but his desire to insure the safety of this little creature out-trumped his shyness.

I think there is a lesson there for the both of us.  Sometimes leaving our comfort zones can lead us to great joy.  Carrying a fuzzy kitten certainly helps…. Maybe that’s where the idea ov

Chilling with Izzie

Today is a bonafide gorgeous day.  I am feeling just a bit under the weather; trying to get the better of a cold that is trying to get the better of me.  My workout this morning with Lorenzo was tough, but not as much of a struggle as it was to just get up and get going out the door.

When I got home from the gym, Izzie was waiting for me at the door.  Sounds cute, except she wasn’t waiting at the door I was entering – she was by the back door waiting to go out.  Lately she’s shown signs that her fur is being rubbed the wrong way by having Purrl around.  I think she was under the impression that the kitten was merely visiting and in Izzie’s mind has long outstayed her welcome.  I decided to go out with Izzie and spend a little quality time with her.  As I headed out on the lawn behind her, she turned and flopped down on the grass in front of me.  I sat next to her and began to pet her.  Soon I was totally sprawled on the grass, just like Izzie, enjoying the warmth of the sun and the view of the sky.

I was a little concerned that one of my neighbors might catch a glimpse of me and worry that I’d taken a fall or just plain croaked in my yard, but not enough to jump up.  I made sure I moved occasionally, just enough to let an on-looker know that I was on the ground by choice.  I wish I’d had my camera, to take some shots of the yard from Izzie’s perspective.  Together we watched some leaves fall and a tufted titmouse land on the feeder.  Then Izzie spotted something in the distance and was off to the woods.

I decided I’d better get up before the paramedics arrived.  Next time, I will grab the camera when I go out.  It’s an experience too good not to share.