In Humble Thanks

I didn’t want this Thanksgiving to pass without comment.  This year I feel especially blessed, or at least have had the time to recognize and note my blessings.

This year, as it turns out, I again was able to escape cooking the Thanksgiving dinner – something to be truly thankful for!  When I finally determined that no one was relying on my hospitality this year, I promptly invited myself to the Berryman’s and booked a room at the nearest motel.

So, first thing Thanksgiving morning, Dave and I loaded up the car with our bags and a couple of side dishes and a pie and headed east to Suffolk for dinner with family.

Norman Rockwell’s “Freedom From Want”

Naturally our family meal didn’t look like the Norman Rockwell painting with the crisp white table cloth and perfect bird.  And, thankfully, Nana and Poppa have managed to hang on to their youthful facades a bit better.  But the essentials of family celebration were all there; warm fellowship, kids bouncing in kinetic anticipation and more food than rightly should be assembled in one kitchen at any given time unless you are raising a barn in your yard.

Before sitting down to eat, we gathered in a large circle in the family room and joined hands in prayer.  Caleb offered a sincere and comprehensive prayer and asked for God’s blessing on us and our meal.  Then, in traditional fashion, the children’s plates were filled first and they were installed at the “kid’s table” in the kitchen followed by the adults who retreated to the dining room.

From the dining room, where the silence of serious eating had set in, the giggles and hoots from the kitchen were often heard, reminding me of the years I spent at the “kids tables” at my grandmothers’ homes.  In my teen years I resented my exile there, but last Thursday, I tried so had to put myself back in my full skirted cotton dress with the crinoline petticoat, white bobby socks and mary janes sitting at a wobbly card table with the companions of my youth; siblings, cousins,  as well as younger aunts and uncles all exiled from grown-up company. Even though it seemed like torture at time, with the boys’ rude noises, the whining of some little one who wanted their mommy or the occasional glass of milk that tumbled over onto a plate or lap, it was nonetheless, as much a part of the Thanksgiving ritual as turkey and pumpkin pie.

Yes, I have so much to be thankful for this year but first and foremost, I am thankful for my family; old and new, past and present.  Collectively they have given me more than I can even begin to express.  For this, I offer a concise prayer of thanksgiving.

 

To B&B or Not to B&B

There have been times in the past when Dave and I have fantacized about opening a B&B in the mountains.  We imagined it would be a quiet life, welcoming travelers to our home, offering an oasis of peace and serenity from the world.

Well, that part of the deal is rewarding as well as a lot of fun.  The flip-side is that there is also a great deal of work involved!  This past Thanksgiving weekend provides a case in point.

Because we are beginning new traditions in our new home, we invited Maggie’s boyfriend, Jan’s family to join us in our Thanksgiving celebration.  Invitations accepted, menus determined and the “who’s bring what” negotiated, our guests arrived last Wednesday evening.  There were Jan’s parents; Arwed and Teresa, his sister, Isolde, Maggie and Jan and their two cats; Rupert and Ivan.  Total in the household – seven adults, four cats.

The holiday celebration was awesome.  The weather was unexpectedly warm.  We spent most of Thanksgiving Day sitting in the backyard listening to the birds and watching Izzie and Rupert explore.  Rupert discovered tree climbing in a big way.  Izzie was just delighted to have a playmate to share the outdoors with.

The relaxed atmosphere took me a bit off course in terms of meal planning so we ate dinner several hours later than planned.  In retrospect, I am happy to report that instead of spending hours in the kitchen to produce a perfect meal, I spent a relaxing day with family and friends and produced an acceptable meal.  The nourishment of the soul was so much more rewarding.

That evening we built a fire in the yard and sat around it, watching it blaze, our stomachs pleasantly full.  When the fire died down, we retreated to the family room where we huddled around the TV, the modern “fire” and watched a very odd movie.  It was all very cozy, the way Thanksgiving evening should be.

The rest of the weekend followed in step.  We were all very relaxed with each other and enjoyed the absence of any type of schedule or itinerary.

So you’re wondering, where’s the work?  It sounds like a vacation, doesn’t it?

Well, it is if you’re not the person responsible for making the coffee, taking out the trash, cooking, loading and unloading the dishwasher and keeping the bathrooms stocked with TP.  Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t that bad, but it was work.  Then there are the mountains of sheets and towels to wash and beds to remake.  The truth be told, although I enjoy a clean home, I don’t really enjoy cleaning  my home – at least not to the level I like it to be when guests arrive.

So, I guess I’m going to scratch the whole B&B idea off my list – at least owning one.  I would love to do some travelling and stay at one, or two….

Oh, there goes the buzzer on the dryer, gotta go!