First Anniversary

Today marks the first anniversary of my blog.  To recap; since last May I have returned to the life of a domestic engineer, bought and sold a house, moved across the state, began working out with a personal trainer, welcomed my son home for an extended visit, provided respite to many weary travellers, was elected to the HOA board, and adopted a kitten.  It has been a full year that’s for certain.

You’d think that with so much change in my life I’d be struggling for an identity.  On the contrary, from the moment we arrived up here, I’ve felt at home. Perhaps it’s because the rural landscape is similar to the rolling hills of Western New York where I was born (although there were no mountains on the horizon) or just the slower pace of life but for whatever the reason, life here is good.

The struggle to discover who I am and what I should be is gone.  I know who I am and I am me.   That is enough.  I’ve just about completed the LifeKeys program and discovered that for the most part, I am using the gifts God gave me in a manner that is authentic to my values and personality.  In the end, my epiphany is exactly like Dorothy Gale’s when she returned from Oz; there is no place like home and nothing more important than family.  Be it blood or loci familia, it’s all about people, connecting and staying connected.

Hopefully Monica Chronicles has helped me stay closer to many folks I care deeply about.  Guaranteed there are more adventures in life to come.

Living Green

This first spring in our new home has been a busy one.  Dave and I have begun the work of transforming our yard into our own personal paradise.  Whenever we have a few moment and the weather cooperates, we’re in the back, diggin up sod, shifting rocks, weeding and dreaming of our finished garden.

We’ve done this before.  When we moved into our last house in 2005, our back yard was boring.  The previous owners had four small children and two dogs.  Gardening was not high on their priority list.

We had a shady patch of grass with a couple of mature trees, all surrounded by a cedar fence.  As always, Dave had a vision and in five short years, with hours of labor and sweat,  we had transformed our bland patch of green into a beautiful garden with plenty of color and life.

This time of year especially, I’d love to take my morning coffee out into the yard and make my rounds from bed to bed, looking for the daily changes.   One morning there would be a new shoot of green popping up through the mulch; the next day I’d find a new bud or even flower. Our garden was exciting and energizing.  It is the one thing I really miss about my old house.

Our new yard is not the blank slate our old one was. There is plenty already here.

Almost half of the back is wooded with mature oaks, cedars, maples, pine trees and even a dogwood and carpeted with fallen leaves and acorns.   Unlike our flat coastal plain yard in Virginia Beach, here in the Piedmont, our yard has a slope which is both beautiful to behold and challenging to mow.  Because of this, we are departing from the goals of  former settlers who cleared the land to plant lawns and fields. Instead, we have decided to  systematically increase the size of our wooded and natural area to decrease the amount of mowing.  I could fib and declare we are doing it to save fossil fuel as a commitment to green living  but in reality our goal is to save our own time and energy!

I do love my new yard.  It is one of the things I love the most about my new home.  I will even love it more once the digging is done and the planting begins.  I’m anxious to see the little green shoots popping up from the mulch.

Closing the Gate

Going back to an empty house for a final look is tricky business.  It is important to keep emotionally divorced and focused on the task at hand, systematically going through each room with a critical eye.  I find that even in writing about it, I need to stay removed from the sentimentality I could so easily apply to each room and area that we worked so eagerly to make our own in the six years we lived on Shelborne Ct.

This weekend, when we went back to collect the items that the movers wouldn’t take, our time was very short.  I think we’d planned it that way purposely.  We left here just after lunch on Saturday so by the time we hit Newport News, the east bound traffic was already building to its ugly summertime self extending the last twenty miles of our trip by an extra forty five minutes. This, coupled with the general Kempsville weekend traffic as we slugged our way from the interstate to the house reminded us how quickly we’d become accustomed to our new rural routine.

By the time we reached the house, we were running late for our dinner plans so we divided and conquered – Dave took the garage and I took the inside of the house.  My room by room eval went well.  I even discovered a fudge pop in the freezer!  I gathered the remaining cleaning and forgotten items and helped load the car.  I was doing just fine until I opened the back gate to toss my Popsicle stick in the garbage when it hit me.

Opening that gate into the yard we’d transformed from a patchy lawn rutted with dog trails into a lush, shady outdoor escape, was easy.  It was closing it for the last time that was tough.  I’d become so attached to each plant and blade of grass, so connected to the earth itself.   We  invested so many hours of preparing the soil, planting each perennial, bulb and shrub.  We weeded. We cultivated.   We watered.  In return we were rewarded with year-round beauty which we anticipated with the enthusiasm of young children counting down the days before Christmas.  Each new green sprout and flower bud was worthy of dinner conversation.  It was our yard that rooted us to our home because it was what connected our home to God.  Saying goodbye to that connection was tough.

Driving back the next day,  the traffic stayed behind us as as we drove further and further west.  Turning off the interstate onto Rt. 33, we drove the last twenty miles to our new home through the green landscapes that are now a part of our everyday life.  With the Blue Ridge mountains peeking between the breaks in the trees and the endless green around us, I feel the tingling of new roots beginning to sprout.  We have a new patch of green behind our home waiting for tending.  Each season will bring new sprouts and opportunities for connection to creation.  And so it begins.

 

 

 

Bill and Hillary

Bill and Hillary arrived at my door early this morning. No, we weren’t entertaining the former president and Secretary of State, Bill and Hillary are our packers.   I thought it ironic that I fit right in as a “Monica”.

Eight hours later, the house is almost empty and reaks of cardboard.  I also realized that Bill and Hillary drove away with half of our belongings and I don’t even know either of their last names or have a contact number for them.

Moving involves so many leaps of faith.

 

 

Labor and Delivery

The packers will be here in a few hours.  This past weekend, while the rest of the country celebrated our Nation’s independence, Dave and I worked on our breaking away from our life here in Virginia Beach.

The eating and goodbyes continued.

I told someone yesterday that is move is kind of like a pregnancy.  There has been the waiting and anticipation of new life, and now we’re entering labor.  It’s going to be a long haul, hurt like hell and then the new life will begin.

Well, at least there won’t be the interruptions of crying during the night.  At least I hope not.