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Last night Dave and I drove over the mountain to have dinner in Harrisonburg.  Thirty-eight miles might seem like a long way to go on a Wednesday night just for dinner, but for us it wasn’t as much about eating as it was supporting a friend and fellow Cursillista.

Several weeks ago our friend Jean found herself unemployed following a seriously questionable series of events.  A gifted musician, she had worked as music minister in her parish for fifteen years and was deeply loved by the community.  But, as anyone who has actually been employed by a church knows, a parish work environment is not always heavenly or even close to being a epitome of Christian virtue.  Many times they are anything but which results in individuals feeling a need to seek greener pastures to “avoid the near occasion of sin.”

So it was with Jean.  As much as she loved her community, she felt the need for change and applied for a job at another parish.  She was offered and accepted a new job.  But after informing her pastor she would be leaving, the job offer was rescinded.  When she called to find out the reason, she was told her current pastor had reached out to the new one and whatever he said, convinced him she would not be a good fit for his parish.  And, to put a cherry on the top of this sundae, when she went to her pastor to let him know she wouldn’t be leaving after all, he handed her a letter accepting her resignation.  So, the course of one week, Jean was hired, not hired and fired leaving her unemployed .

This could be the end of a very sad story, but in reality, but the real story lies in how her community of friends has lifted her up both in prayer and financial support.  A “Go Fund Me” page was started on her behalf and enough money was raised to prevent her from loosing her house and keep her going.

Last week we had dinner together and she shared how overwhelming it was to be carried by those who love her and how all the potential snags on her horizon seem to be falling to the side; her house has sold and she has secured a new place to live and she is receiving encouraging signs that she will soon be employed full-time.   The Spirit is alive in her and around her, and she will thrive.

So yeah, driving thirty-eight miles to eat a seriously good Italian meal and listen to my friend tickle the ivories seemed like a little thing to do to show a friend how much she means to us.  And we weren’t alone, in fact the dining room was full of friends and Cursillistas, all doing the same thing.

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There is nothing any of us can do to take away the sting of injustice she has suffered at the hands of the institutional church but we, the real church can salve her wounds and help her back onto her feet.

I snapped this photo in the parking lot as we headed to our car.  There will always be storms in our lives, but the rainbow is a reminder of God’s promise that even when our world seems to be destroyed, there will always be new life.  DeColores my friend!

Remains of the Day

Betty and Charlotte, just a few years ago.
Betty and Charlotte, just a few years ago.

This morning our Parish bid farewell to Charlotte, a long time member of our community.  I didn’t know her at all other than to know who she was by sight, a very elderly woman who reminded me of the old lady on Hallmark cards.

Each Sunday her friend Betty would drop her off at the door and she would slowly shuffle to her seat with the aid of her walker.  Her eyes must have been sensitive to the light, because she always wore dark sunglasses and her hearing wasn’t good because often, during the quiet times of our services, she would turn to Betty and ask, “What did he say?”  in a very loud voice.  But Charlotte was 99 years old so she got brownie points for her mere presence.

In the past month or so I’ve gotten to know Betty a bit, having chatted with her on the phone several times when she called to ask me to send an email out through our Parish Communication Network to keep the community informed of Charlotte’s failing health and eventual passing.  Each time we spoke, I was given glimpses into the early life of this “little old lady.”  She wasn’t just one of the locals.  In fact, through her longtime career in the hospitality industry, she lived in many places including Cuba both before and after Castro assumed power.  While in Cuba she adopted two sons and eventually was able to bring them back to the US with her.

Betty prepared a photo board montage of Charlotte’s life for the luncheon following the memorial Mass which showed her at various stages of her life, as young girl, bride, young mother and happy retiree vacationing all over the world.  There was even a photo of Charlotte with Mohammad Ali!

The more I’ve learned about Charlotte, the more I wish I’d actually gotten to know her.  Those who did know her said she was a pip.  She was outspoken in at least two languages and had an enormous capacity for love; she was just my kind of person!

I’m sorry that I wasn’t able to know her personally but I’m glad I was able to learn what I did about her because it is a reminder to me that I have to be a bit more careful about how I label people in my head.  After all, someday, God willing, I too will be a little old lady shuffling into church each Sunday with my senses failing.  And I wonder, what will people think of me?

From Palms to Palm Readers – Part II

The day after my spiritual high at Blessed Sacrament/St. Joan of Arc, Dave, Andy and I did some sight-seeing in the French Quarter.  When we visited New Orleans the last time, the weather was dreary and I was fighting the flu so I missed seeing the St. Louis Cathedral (The Cathedral-Basilica of Saint Louis, King of France).  It is a splendid church, towering over Jackson Square in the French Quarter.  Opened in 1794, St. Louis Cathedral boasts itself as the oldest continuing Catholic community in the United States.  (The current structure replaces an earlier one destroyed by fire.)

A street band performs on a bench across the sidewalk from St. Louis Cathedral.
A street band performs on a bench across the sidewalk from St. Louis Cathedral. (I borrowed this photo.)

What I found the most striking about the cathedral wasn’t the beautiful spires or stone, but the way it seemed to be completely ignored by the groups of palm readers, musicians, artists and magicians who set up shop on the sidewalk  just yards from the grand Jubilee Doors.  And that was the stuff that was readily apparent.

Mind you, the music, like all music you hear on the streets of New Orleans, was good…  and loud!  And the bands I saw did not seem organized, rather more like individual musicians who showed up at the same spot at the same time and began to jam.  No matter how big or small the combo, they all had a bucket or hat to collect donations from the passersby.

Closer to the doors of the Cathedral, palm readers with names like “Mother this” or “Sister that,” had small tables set up with bag chairs on either side so their customers could sit comfortably while having their futures told.

The sanctuary of the The Cathedral-Basilica of Saint Louis, King of France, New Orleans.
The sanctuary of the The Cathedral-Basilica of Saint Louis, King of France, New Orleans.

Stepping through the doors of the Cathedral, the narthex was a transitional space between the noise and confusion of the world outside and the peace and quiet orderliness of Heaven.  Once inside the sanctuary, it was like stepping into one of the old churches I’d toured in England.  Everything God was done on a large-scale, reflecting the omnipotence of the Almighty.

Everyone inside spoke in hushed whispers.  And, except for the step-ladder I later noticed in what I thought was a quality photo of the altar, it was a very traditional Catholic worship space.

I wondered for a moment if the interior of this immense church could rock the way little Blessed Sacrament/St. Joan of Arc did.  At first I couldn’t picture it, but then I remembered, this cathedral was just a building.  The real church was the people outside the doors who gather for worship.  And, if they are anything like the people directly outside the cathedral doors, the potential was definitely there.

Palms to Palm Readers – Part I

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My celebration of Holy Week began this year in a very different way.  Instead of spending Palm Sunday in our home-parish, hustling up and down the sidewalk between the church and the social hall checking to see if all the working parts are in place (it’s not my job, it’s my personality), I spent an amazing two hours with our close friends, Nicole and Ralph Johnson at their parish in New Orleans. Touted as the “Uptown church with the down-home message,”  the parish of Blessed Sacrament/St. Joan of Arc Catholic Church did not disappoint.

Formed by a diocesan reorganization following Hurricane Katrina in 2008, the then separate parish of Blessed Sacrament joined St. Joan of Arc and the two became one.  I tried to find more information on the history of the two parishes, but couldn’t find any online.  I did learn that New Orleans is the home of the largest concentration of Afro-American Catholics in the United States, in large part due to the city’s French roots and the “Code Noir” in 1724 which required all slave-holders to have their slaves baptized Catholic.  Surprisingly, Catholic Churches in New Orleans were not segregated by race until Reconstruction to appease white supremacists.  Whatever its particular history, my history with Blessed Sacrament/St. Joan of Arc, is one of warmth and impassioned embrace of the Spirit.

Blessed Sacrament/St. Joan of Arc Church (pre-Katrina).  I didn't notice any differences except depicted here, it seems so quiet - a much different scene than I experienced on Palm Sunday!
Blessed Sacrament/St. Joan of Arc Church (pre-Katrina). I didn’t notice any differences except depicted here, it seems so quiet – a much different scene than I experienced on Palm Sunday!

In keeping with the tradition of Palm Sunday, Mass began with an outdoor procession.  Instead of the perfunctory walk up and down the parking lot as I’ve experienced in the past, the members of Blessed Sacrament/St. Joan of Arc processed around six blocks neighboring their church, onto the city streets, singing and waving to the folks sipping coffee on their front porches as we walked by.  Returning to the church, we entered to the large sound of gospel music.  To say the choir was good would be like saying the Mona Lisa is a nice painting.  Both are masterpieces!

Although Catholic Mass is essentially the same everywhere, all are seasoned with local customs and traditions.  At Blessed Sacrament/St. Joan of Arc the seasoning is Cajun; it is very spicy and leaves a warm feeling inside.  And, while I was aware that Dave and I were among a mere handful of white faces in the congregation, I never felt anything but acceptance and belonging.  After all, we were not different, we were the same – Catholic Christians celebrating Jesus’ entry into our lives.

Aunt Martha Needs Help

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One spring morning two friends met for coffee.  “How was your Easter?” one asked the other.

“Well,” she replied,”it was awful. We went to Aunt Martha’s house for dinner.  She’s been inviting us for years but we’ve always been too busy to join her.”

When I was a girl, we went there every Sunday for dinner and it was always such a fine affair.  The table was set with the finest linens, the family china and the silver she was given as a wedding gift.”

“It all sounds lovely.” Remarked her friend.

“Oh, it was!” She said. ” And we all wore our best clothes.”

“So what was different this time?” Her friend asked.

“Well, to begin with, since there were fewer of us for dinner, Aunt Martha sat us in the kitchen and we used ordinary placements and paper plates!  Not only that, but she didn’t serve half as many dishes and some of them were frozen prepared side dishes.”  Sighing, she added, “Aunt Martha said she just didn’t have the time to do more but she was so glad to have us join her.  It seems a shame that neither of her daughters had been able to lend a hand.”

“I guess we might go again next year if we’re invited, but I’m afraid it might just ruin all the happy memories I have as a child.”

“What a shame.”  Said her friend. “It sounds like your Aunt Martha could use some help. Maybe you could stop and see her more often and lend a hand.”

“Oh no,” she replied, “My cousins can do that, after all, she’s their  mother!”

What a shame indeed.  In the next two weeks, many nameless faces will attend church services, some for the first time in many years.  Some will find their churches easily maintaining long-held traditions, while others will have changed the way things are done.

Aside from changes in music and responses, many will find the bloom is off the rose.  The altar cloths may look a little shabby and maybe even some of the services will run a bit off kilter.

If you happen upon my parish, you will find an aging congregation with very few “Martha’s” left with the energy to tend to more than the bare essentials.

Still, we continue to be excited by the number of visitors we received during these very Holy days, and will welcome you whole heartedly, and truly hope you like us enough to come back again and again.

Be kind your regard for us.  We are doing the best we can with the gifts we have.  If it looks like we need help, it’s because we do.

Maybe you could give us a hand?

 

 

Be Not Afraid

“Be not afraid.

I go before you always.

Come follow me,

And I will give you rest.”

IMG_0073Like most people, I have been shaken by the recent events of violence around the world.  Bloody scenes of wounded men and women have been brought directly into our home on increasingly larger and sharper HD television screens.  It is difficult to comprehend and it shakes our sense of security to the core.  It is equally challenging not to respond to these horrific events without fear.  Many have chosen to arm themselves and guns sales have hit a new high.  Since I can’t see myself buying a gun, I am doing my best to choose to respond with faith and hope.

In a county where people insist on having “In God We Trust” stamped on our coins and including “One nation under God” in our Pledge of Allegiance, we seem to have forgotten that if we indeed believe these things, God should be in charge.  Why are we so afraid?

To take this one step further, if we are a majority of Christians in this country, why aren’t we following the words of the Christ?  What happened to “Blessed are the peacemakers?”  I don’t remember Jesus telling the Apostles to include a knife or sword with them when they went from town to town preaching the Gospel.   And from what I’ve read about the Roman occupation, the Holy Land, wasn’t the safest place to be walking around unarmed.  And yet they did.  They had faith.

So as Christmas approaches, and we prepare our homes to welcome the Christ child, let us also take some time to prepare our hearts as well, to make a place to receive Christ and to try to increase our faith and take those first steps at life in hope and no longer in fear.

Vinefest

 

Version 2This past Saturday Dave and I joined a group of our friends at the Montpelier Wine Festival on the grounds of James and Dolley Madison’s beloved home.  Weather-wise, it was one of the warmest, most beautiful days we’ve enjoyed all spring.  Combined with great friends, Virginia wine and snacks, it was the perfect recipe for some much-needed down time.

Much earlier that morning I’d gotten up at “0’dark thirty” to work at a charity ticket sale at a local department store to raise funds for our local Habitat for Humanity organization.  I was there from 5:20 am until 10:00 am.  By the time we arrived at the winefest at one o’clock, I’d already been up for nine hours.  Luckily, I had just enough energy to enjoy the afternoon with our friends.

Sunday morning we were up early again for Mass at 8:30 and afterwards grabbed some breakfast with church friends before returning to the church to pack meals for Stop Hunger Now.

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This is the second year our parish has held the event.  Throughout the year, we hold fund-raising events to cover the costs of the meals, culminating in the packing event where  volunteers donned in hairnets, measure ingredients into bags, weigh the bags for consistency, seal the bags and pack them into boxes.  Each time 1,000 meals are packed, a gong is struck to spur us on. Volunteers range in age from elementary age children to senior adults, all working as a team, each doing what they can. Together, we packed almost 14,000 meals in just under two hours.

I couldn’t help but see this event as a living example of Sunday’s Gospel  (John 15:1-8), the story of the vine and the branches.  We were all working as parts of the same vine, the older branches and the new shoots.  As I thought more about it, I realized that my weekend, with its fullness of stuff echoed the same theme where my own branch was pruned a bit; my time was pruned but the result was new life in the seeing of the Gospel coming to life and in the lives of those I’ve helped, although I will probably never seen them.

It also didn’t escape me that my time at the winefest was also vine related.  And, after realizing that, I discovered a title for today’s thought.

If you’d like more information on Stop Hunger Now and how you might like to be involved, here is their web address:  http://www.stophungernow.org.

 

 

 

Your Tears Will Be Turned Into Dancing!

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Women often reflect the world around them in their countenance, posture and attitude.  When we are tired, we drop our shoulders.  When we are attempting to find balance in our lives, we can seem controlling.  And when we are is despair, we can appear distant and cold.  We build walls to protect us from harm and hand curtains to hide our hurt from others.

Just as we religiously apply our BB cream every morning to blend in the dark spots, we, like Eleanor Rigby, put on our face that we keep in a jar by the door and face the world.  We are determined not to share our hurt, guilt, shame and disappointments, all at a very dear price; our own peace.

At this weekend’s Women’s Cursillo,  I witnessed what happens when a group of women are gathered and freed from their daily responsibilities and given a place where they are not only allowed to be who they are but celebrated for being no more than who they are; daughters of God,  warts, bumps, scars and all!

Women stood taller.  Women smiled more freely and laughed heartily.  Women sang in incredible harmonies and danced like their bodies had been aching to move for a long, long time.  The transformation was a thing of awe.

Granted, this metanoia was fueled by a lack of sleep and overabundance of chocolate, but similar to the vision quests young native Americans would take, the great Spirit came down upon each one of us this weekend and refreshed and renewed our souls.

The Spirit did not make us holy, we already were in God’s eyes. Instead, our eyes were opened and we were able to see our holiness, some of us for the first time.

My name is Monica and I made my Cursillo at Camp Overlook in October, 2012 at the table of the Seekers of the Light Within.    I was blessed with the opportunity to serve on this past weekend’s preparation team.  I hope I’ve given you a teasing glimpse of what Cursillo is and how it can lift your soul.  (I can’t tell you more or I’d have to kill you! lol)

If you’d like more information about Cursillo in Central Virginia, please contact Valley Cursillo at  www.valleycursillo.com.  If you live outside our area, check out www.cursillo.org. You’ll be glad you did!

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Pagan Babies Revisited

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When I was a little girl the Sisters at Bishop Conroy Memorial School taught us about Catholic missionaries working in remote places of the world spreading God’s word to the pagans.  (To us, a pagan was anyone who wasn’t Christian.) In our classroom we had a competition between the boys and girls to raise money to support the missions.  Two jars sat on Sister’s desk, one for the boys and one for the girls. Every time we raised $5.00, we were issued a beautiful certificate of adoption by the Pontifical Association of the Hold Childhood as a “souvenir of the ransom and baptism of an adopted pagan baby” which also included the name we had chosen for our newly adopted child.  By the end of the school year, certificates proudly circled the walls of our classroom.

Looking back it seems like a silly thing to do, but in those days we sincerely worried about the fate of the poor pagan babies living in darkness without Jesus in their lives.  We were so sheltered in our world we were totally unaware that God was in their lives even if Jesus wasn’t.  It never occurred to me that just maybe these “pagans” had their own faith in God and way to worship, or how the peoples in Africa felt when European missionaries arrived and set their worlds upside down….until now.

Last year our parish was assigned a new administrator.  Our previous pastor had become ill and could no longer fill the needs of two rural parishes in Central Virginia with a mountain between them.  Due to a shortage of priests in our diocese, the bishop  looked to other countries where there is an excess of clergy to fill our empty rectories.  Our new priest, Fr. Michael, came to us from Uganda.

Since his arrival, I have thought of the pagan babies many times.  Not because I think he was a pagan baby, but because in many ways, he appears to be like a missionary to us.

Naturally there are some cultural differences.  Fr. Michael is much more conservative/traditional than most American priests I’ve known in my lifetime.  He wears a cassock when he is in his official capacity as priest and embraces many of the old “smells and bells” of the pre-Vatican church.  Although these things are familiar to me because of my age, I find myself very uncomfortable with the return of the old ways.  In some ways I feel like I am the “pagan baby”.  Our ways are not his ways and the impression is that our ways are incorrect and must be changed.

He is a good and kind man, but I’m not so sure he has spent much of his clerical life working with the laity.  Because our parish has always had a non-resident pastor, the lay folk have pitched in and have done almost everything, with little direction. Leadership in a group like this is not easy.

Somehow we will have to find middle-ground for our parish to thrive.  Our congregation is graying and there are fewer young folks joining to take on the added burdens being set aside by those ready for rest.  It is a sad thing when the “young folk” are in their fifties and nearing sixties.

I don’t know what the answer is.    The good news is that I’ve realized I don’t have to find the solution; which has been a weight lifted from my shoulders.  I’m praying that the answer will eventually be revealed.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

One (wo)Man’s Trash

They say that one man’s trash is another’s treasure.  I got a first hand glimpse of that yesterday.

For the past year or so, our parish Hospitality Committee has been planning a kitchen remodel project in our parish hall.  A major part of this project is to update the appliances to make our kitchen more energy efficient and user-friendly.

As our first step, we chose to sell the old commercial range, a huge beast of stainless steel that has caused many to lose their eyebrows when attempting to light the pilot.  In the past, it was used a great deal for large parish dinners and breakfasts but times have changed and so have the dynamics of our parish.  The old range needed to go to make room for smaller ranges with electronic ignitions.

I was surprised how quickly we received responses to our Craig’sList ad.  Within twenty-four hours we had three interested buyers.  It was then that the fear set in, how were we ever going to get the old range out of the kitchen?

When it first arrived and the parishioners realized the range was too large to fit through the narrow doorway to the kitchen, they gathered a group of strong men and lifted the beast over the kitchen counter.  We didn’t have a group of strong men to help us and I wasn’t sure how we would move it out of there.

We considered pulling down the door jam to give us more room through the door seemed to be our only exit strategy.  But I didn’t think much about it  until I pulled into the parking lot and I saw the truck and trailer. What were we going to do?

Frankly I thought this first couple would take one look at our beast and leave as soon as they learned they’d have to either keep the pilots lit or light them each time they used the stove.

But, the moment my buyers saw the old stove, they fell in lovek with it. After pulling it away from the wall and lighting the burners, the husband went to his truck and returned with a fist full of bills in one hand and his tool bag in the other saying, “I’ll take it.”

He measured the doorway and the range and then spent the next two hours quietly and patiently disassembling and removing parts until the range finally rolled freely though the door.  What impressed me the most about him was the way the kept his cool through the entire process, not once uttering a word of frustration or giving his wife a dark look.

Instead, they chatted about how many pancakes they could make for their sons or cookies they could bake in the double ovens. Their eyes were on their prize; our old clunker of a stove.

After removing the stove, he came back, capped off our gas line and shut the gas off to the hall as a safety precaution.  It turns out he works for one of our local gas companies.

As they drove away with our old beast securely strapped to their trailer, I felt happy for the old girl.  She’d done her job well for us, but never really received the love and care she deserved.  Now she has gone to a good home where she will be loved and cherished. For this family, our old stove was a treasure.